Torah at all costs is not hypocrisy.
If it comes at the expense of your family, it is. Because taking care of your family is a Torah value.
I don’t think the OP is really contradictory though.
The problem with the learning without earning is that when people find it “unaffordable” they can’t jump to earning $100,000 to support their 7 kids in Yeshiva. If you think you don’t need $100,000 to support 7 kids, you must not be sending your kids to Yeshiva or paying much of tuition. In which case you aren’t supporting your family, you are still living off others. So define “affordable.”