A better idea – move out of the New York area. There’s a whole great continent out there with frum communities large and small from coast to coast. Don’t like the cold? Try Atlanta. Love snow? There are are Chicago and Denver. Los Angeles, Cleveland, Memphis, Detroit. Those are too far from the family? There are Baltimore, Philly, Boston, even Pittsburgh.
Wide open spaces, cheap housing, less competition in the job market, day schools and yeshivas, and you won’t face the NY gashmius competition either. Plus you will even get to know your neighbors.
Go West, young family! Or south or north. (But not east, unless you’re really good at swimming 🙂