Reply To: When does doing Chesed become called "being used"?

Wow. Thanks so much for everyone’s input. I found that every member who had 2cents to share hit the nail on the head with one true and very punching statement. I thank you all for your ideas and suggestions. It has given me something to think about.

I appreciate everyone’s point of view, however it was only the last comment from SQUEAK that really hit the spot.

I recognized a true sore spot in our relationship when I read your comment. I am being a pushover. And I am afraid of her. I don’t know why. I have been afraid to refuse her. Now, although I have refused her many times in the past, from now on, with Hashem’s help I will try to do it with simcha, and let it go. Not to feel intimidated.