“A man can choose to focus on what he has to work on – ie, sinas chinam, shmiras einayim, limud Torah, chesed etc. You can also make sure your wife and children know what is right. Or, you can just say that women are to blame for Moshiach’s delay, and excuse yourself from any responsibility.”
Of course men must work on their stuff. As I said before, this isn’t a one-way street in either direction.
That said:
A woman can choose to focus on what she has to work on – ie, tzniyus, chinuch, shalom bayis, chesed etc. You can also make sure your husband and children are doing what is right. Or, you can just say that men are to blame for Moshiach’s delay, and excuse yourself from any responsibility. Again, this a two-way street.
“Chazal also say that women reflect men. It’s your responsibility to make sure that what we reflect is positive!! If you are the sun and we are the moon, who is to blame when the moon isn’t so lichtig?”
So now it’s our problem if you misbehave? Wow. And some complain everything is blamed on the women…
I’m not sure exactly what that chazal means (which shouldn’t come as a suprise seeing as I’ve never heard it before), but I highly doubt it means that women have no bechira. As such, women are just as responsible for their actions as men are for theirs.