Popa – Well hopefully he would feel that he is getting a “good deal” out of the marruage as well. You should always feel like you married up.
World Saver – so what your saying is that there is no reason for me as woman to get married, rather its for my (future) husband. And the fact that I happen to be the one he gets married to well, thats collaterl damage. I disagree.
You see that one of the Mitzvos of a woman are Niddah, I highly doubt this special mitzvah would be given to woman if they were just the “victims” of men having to get married.