rryr, relax;) what is it going to be like? IYH a good experience that will bring you one step closer to marrying your bashert(whoever he may be)…just let things go naturally, be polite, and smile kindly and really listen to what he has to share with you, b/c pp can tell when others pay attention.
you can take from this thread a few conversational ideas: hobbies, seminary experience, family, family trips etc
just remember: no need to spell out life goals and ambitions at
this point, keep it light and friendly.
and another thing….since you mentioned your first of your friends to date: its soo super important, i cannot STRESS this enough, that you SHOULD NOT share details of date with your friends.
yes, i know they will be waiting to hear, and i know they’ll wana know all details so that “it will help their dating experience”
but im telling you something very real: bracha metzuya bashtika!!”
bracha is found in silence! you want things to go well? don’t spread the details around town…
beside the potential loshen hara that can come out by s/o misunderstanding what you say…I have heard many cases of girls refusing certain boys( and vice versa) cuz their friend made a silly comment about what he did/ say on a date!
if your friends ask you how it went: you can tell them very generally where you went and that you spoke about “family, life, hobbies. period” don’t share more! even if you dont’ tell them the guy’s name( pp find out very quickly these things)
I know it may be hard to conceal these things…but only pp you shud talk about date is your parents and mentor, thats it!
Hatzlacha! and may it go well!