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Sacrilege:
“I too would rather a boy who has been “tested” or has worked on himself, and life wasnt given to him on a silver platter. But does that mean that he had to go to therapy? Whilst I agree that therapy is great for those who need it. I dont think that it is something everyone should have on their speed dial.”
I agree with you on this – not everyone needs to be in therapy, often wonderful parents, good friends, or mechanchim/mechanchos can help us through difficult time. However, unfortunately, most people today are not blessed with all the resources necessary to give them the tools to overcome challenges without therapy. I have worked in our community in various small ways and was always shocked at how emotional issues are not treated anywhere near as seriously as learning issues.
Any child who doesn’t read by age 9 would be getting tutoring in our community. What about a child who doesn’t smile or have any friends at age 9? That’s a sign of childhood depression and should NOT be ignored. But we all know that such things are routinely ignored.
“”Narcissists don’t go to therapy.”
Just because I’m in a nit-picking kind of mood 😉
Assuming that statement is true (I am not entirely sure that it is)Narcissism is a personality disorder, so wouldnt you as a future therapist want to help Narcissists instead of pointing them out and putting them down? They need help as do any other person with a disorder.”
If you do some research on narcissistic personality disorder, you will find that it is true. I know some people with this personality who are quite successful and no one except their children can tell of what it is like at home. It is one of the most difficult things to treat since part of treatment is identifying the problem, and it is difficult to get a narcissist to admit that they’re not perfect.
In looking for a shidduch, NPD is one of the things you should look for and run away from – someone who isn’t just arrogant, but literally thinks they are perfect, even if they are charming, their needs always come first and after marriage the spouse is shocked that this self-absorbed person is the same charmer that they dated. People with NPD rarely have been in therapy by the time they reach shidduch age, since if they do go, it’s because they were forced.
“Bottom line is the Frum community has been known to shove all taboo subjects under the rug, hoping to make everything to look like butterflies and rainbows. Lately, thank G-d, there has been a movement to bring many issues to the forefront and I think therapy has been one of them.”
I don’t know if therapy is an “issue”- it’s a very effective way of dealing with many issues. (If you will allow me to be picky in return 🙂 )
“Kol Hakavod to you on your career choice. I am sure that you will find that it is more that just a career, but is a very rewarding experience.”
Thanks, I do.