Halachacly speaking a couple must be attracted to each other and not eckeled by each other in order for it to be a shidduch. Having said that, no one really knows what will attract one person to another. Take a look out on your main avenue and see who Hashem has put together. We can have a good hardy laugh because in many cases we would never have thought of putting together many of the couples WE see, and we wonder how the shadchan ever thought of the shiduch. My husband’s partner went out with at least 100 girls before he settled for his wife. This was over 30 years ago. He claimed he was marrying the richest and the pretties. Now please have in mind that I have nothing against his wife and she is quite a nice and lovely person but she was neither wealthy nor gorgeous, and certainly not the “wealthiest” and most “beautiful” that he had dated.
As far as lists are concerned, one rarely gets whats on their lists, because after all Hashem is in charge. So the search for the prettiest, skinniest, tallest, etc leads people to long and lonely lives alone.
My son (who is B”H married with a couple of kids) happens to be 6′ tall (which is rare in today’s generation of young boys) and a pretty good looking young man at that. Since he was 19 years old people were chasing me with shidduchim “what is he looking for” and I kept saying he is not looking for “fluff”. They looked at me as if I was nuts and asked me what I meant. I told him looks are not the most important thing to him. He doesn’t want a ditzy dame who bats her eyelashes at him ands says “honey, the milchig fork fell into the fleishig sink what should I do?” He would lose his mind and probably answer her “that’s your job, mine is to go out and make a parnasah and yours is to understand how to run the home. Ask your mother or mine, or call a Rav!” That is what’s important to him, to have a wife with a brain, someone that can keep up with him and have intelligence and smarts.
B”H, he got both beauty and smarts probably because he wasn’t looking for it.