charliehall:
“The emphases in the frum community on physical attraction, and on money, regarding possible marriage partners is worse than among the goyim. We should be ashamed of ourselves.”
Speak for yourself. We may not all be perfect angels, but to make such an extreme generalization like that is really pushing it.
Health:
“There used to be 5 Mems people looked for in a shidduch -1. Mamone (Money), 2. Maareh (Looks), 3. Mispacha (Family yichus), 4. Moach (Brains), and 5. Midos (Character traits). I guess now we are down to the first three or two. “
Who’s we?
In general, we frum jews tend to be our own biggest critics. This is usually a good thing, but it does have the side effect of magnifying our faults in our own eyes. We focus so much on what we are doing wrong, to the point that we make it out to be much worse than it actually is. We may be too into looks, money, etc, but that certainly doesn’t make us anywhere near as bad as the goyim. We have plenty of things we need to work on, but I really think we have ourselves underrated.