MW13-
Yes, it IS a problem that a Ben Torah cannot think for himself. My own Rav is overwhelmed with nahrisha kashes (partly) because of this.
Okay, my example of not embarrassing someone was not a good one. But if the Torah was black and white there would be no machlokess about anything. It is FAR from black and white.
On my last point, I should have phrased it “there are times when seichel has to take precedence over the halachah as written in Shulchan Aruch”. Yes, in Orthodox Judaism.