Reply To: Who's the victim? Who's the villain?

The attitude shouldn’t be whose at fault, because this scenario takes place a lot nowadays. Sometimes the couple works it out by themselves -“I’ll learn x amount a years and then go out to work.” “I’ll go out to work tomorrow.” Or the woman aquieses and gets a babysitter and continues working. If they can’t work it out- they go to a Rosh Yeshiva or a Rov. If they still can’t come to common ground -it’s time for marital therapy. As far as people not saying the truth in the first place -this is a common problem in our generation, almost as common as loshon hora!