from reading some of the posts here and from speaking to my sisters in bais yaakov I get the impression that many (and in very yeshivish communities most) of the high school girls have no idea about the inherent attraction men have to them. Even those who have some clue, have it in their head as some vague idea and not as the real pressing thing it is to men. Because of their lack of exposure to secular media and because they dont mingle with guys socially (which is a great thing) they are unaware of these things. I read one of the comments here that said that girls were viewing negiah as a chumra. If they had any clue about what their touch can do to a guy they would be much more careful. Now the only way for them to fully realize the power of attraction they have is to have some real life experiences we dont want them to have. however acc to my sisters they dont even tell the girls openly in bais yaakov. I am wondering if a girl had a basic idea that by wearing that sweater that is a little too tight she is causing a lot of yetzer hara issues maybe she would think twice rather than just thinking whats the big deal if I bend the rules here and there whats going to happen.
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