chaerliehall wrote: (4) Chumrot: If either of you will give up your favorite chumrot in the interest of shalom bayit, you have a problem.
I assume you meant: If either spouse will not give up a chumra for shalom bayis then they probably shouldn’t be married.
I other words, chumros are nice if they don’t hurt your marriage. If your chumra is more important to you than your spouse then you have problems. Of course if the spouse is OK with it then by all means continue the chumra…