superficial
If thats how you are in real life, superficial, then you should not be dating.
Im a guy, but this is good advice.
Ill give you teh basics.
Look for a mentsch. Someone who looks put together, kind, polite, good middos who is respectful has acceptable social skills and has similar hashkafos to yours and looking to grow in his Yiddishkiet. The guy should also be stable. If hes in learning he shouldnt be jumping yeshivos every year and if he works he should be able to hold down a job for a while. If he is up to a different job every few months there may be something wrong. Stability is important.
Dont get caught up in stupidities. Focus on the person, are they a good person, do you enjoy being with them do you feel like you are compatible with this person…