Oomis, I thought better of you than that. These are words of Torah and you turn it into personal glimpses! If you don’t like a Mishna, do research. If you don’t like what you find, swallow it and keep quiet or ask someone greater than you to explain it.
Where do you get the idea that in “those days” they didn’t have a relationship with their wives? This is American propaganda. The reason there were no woman’s rights movements is because no one took it away. You can see many very normal interactions in the Gemara.