going into chinuch is a category on its own. on the one hand, it’s not “learning full time” but it’s also not “working.” i always tell the shadchanim that i’m looking for someone who wants to learn as long as he possible can and if he has to work he’ll go into “klei kodesh.” i think chinuch is part of “klei kodesh,” that is, holy/spiritual work. i think most people lookingfor a “working” guy are looking more for s/o who’s going to be sitting in an office in front of a computer or a lawer or wtvr. i could be wrong but this is the impression i get.
about support – Hashem yaazor. i could tell you countless stories of people who technically didn’t have any support but managed anyway. of course that doesn’t mean you should be irresponsible. do your hishtadlus. just saying – don’t worry too much.
i’ve heard many people say that they want someone who wants to go to or is in college. it’s not so weird.
hatzlacha rabba !!
(GO WEST COAST!)