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AZ: I forgot, the purpose of this forum is for you to perpetuate the age gap myth. I will make sure not to write anything that explodes that myth.
Now. This may come as a surprise to you (it shouldnt if you would actually read what I wrote) but we actually agree. The way the system is set up today, there ARE to many players for the number of chairs. Here is where we differ. You believe it has to do with the age gap. I believe it is because of the warped system that has evolved in the last 15-20 years. To take your analogy one step further. Everybody wants to play on center court, not some outer side court, therefore all players push and shove their way into the main arena for a chance to play on center court. The problem is, not enough equipment for everyone to play at the same time, so the equipment keeps getting used (and some eventually is claimed and taken home by the players), while some potential players ssit on the sidelines and watch. We should either bring in enough equipment for all players to play at the same time, OR ask some players to play in the outer courts. Under our warped system, where every boy is the best in his yeshiva as long as he precisely fits a specific mold, all such equipment is brought onto the center court. All other equipment that doesnt precisely fir the mold is relegated to the outer courts, if that. All players, naturally want the best equipment and in fact have been indoctrinated that they must only use equipment that comes from a specific mold, so they all flock to center court where that equipment is located.
Since we reject way to much equipment from center court and invite any and all players to center court, we have a glut of players. There is plenty of equipment that nobody wants to use.
It is our warped mentality that has created this situation. Not hashem and the number of males and females he has born each year.