Reply To: Musical Chairs and Shidduchim

PBA: Glad to see I have captured you attention and imagination.

Step #2. Reduce the participants.

If people compensated shadchanim for producing achievable results (date #2/date #4) inevitably the slightly older girls would get far more attention as it is they/their families/their communities/their schools, who would most likely appreciate/compensate the shadchanim for their efforts. If slightly older girls are getting more attention that equals fewer dates for the younger girls, thus reducing the new participants each year.

There are additional side benefits to the community if/when such a concept becomes commonplace, but I am limiting this to the direct effect on the musical chairs problem

A.Will it actually make an appreciable difference.

Yes

B.Is it implementable; will people do it?

Yes

C. Will it create other problems; will it be worth it?

Absolutely!