Blinky, I think you’re on to something. I’d say bring your own chair to the game.
Meaning, don’t wait for whatever the shadchan brings you.. be proactive, find the match YOU want and then either approach the person yourself or have someone act as a shadchan (depending on your age and affiliation).
In many other areas we are VERY successfull (carrears, nice homes, talents, ect) and got there by hard work and planning. Not by just sitting back and waiting to see what comes down the pipeline. I don’t see why we should leave a choice as important as your life partner to the whim of someone else, who may or may not even be paying attention to you and what you really need.