there is nothing wrong with chumras but with the people that make them!
im not talking about rabbanim or the like but rather the “cool frafrumpta yeshivish”guy
first of all they think that any body who doesnt have this chumra is not frum,charadi,yeshivish etc….
secondly, they think that is the halacha and there is no other opinion in the world not like it
this being said, this causes strife and hatred in the world between fellow jews
some times a person has to be mivatel on his chumra for either sholom bayis, neighbors etc….
i have a rebbi who keeps certain chumras but doesnt impose them even on his spouse
he says “if im crazy what does that have to do with her”
i think this should be the attitude of all chumra makers then the world would be a better place