(I want to add that lots of the pressure on me to keep dating him was from a shiur we had at the end of seminary, where we were told that lots of singles are still waiting around through their own fault, they say no to a boy for invalid reasons that dont really matter in a marriage, you have to be sure that you could never live with the guy before you say no… and I was so scared of pushing away my bashert. Everything must be taken with a pinch of salt.) emphasis mine.
Sounds like one of the most scary speaches I have ever heard.
To marry someone is a commitment for the rest of your life. It seems like that sem is producing and encouraging the divorce crisis.