“I’m sure you transmitted your values to your children and also you’ve had much siyatta dishmaya and everything worked out great.”
My husband and I together have transmitted OUR values and our parents’ values (and his were not even frum, but they were amazing people, baalei chessed and both sets of grandparents o”h were incredible role models). Our kids are well-known in our neighborhood and elsewhere, for being especially kind, sensitive, and thoughtful people with excellent middos and integrity. S”D is a large part of all of our lives, but the basic structure has to be there first, to ensure that our kids do the right thing at ALL times.
“People made the assumption on their own. But in any case, they were right I shouldn’t have written the word “group”.”
That’s because we are discussing MO people. Is there any other group to which you assign this “problem?” And while it is true that it isn;t all fine and dandy “my way” either, that’s because it is a part of life for people to suffer heartbreak at one time or another. NOTHING can prevent it 100% of the time, no matter who you are. Aharon Hakohein lost two sons on the same day. Would you doubt that they were tzaddikim or that he was suffering terribly (in spite of remaining silent)? No one is immune from experiencing sadness.