“oommis-I don’t understand why you are so against my teacher. All she did was mention that college, support…is not e/t in life for everyone. For every person different measures work best. For her, she is able to support her family while her husband learns. Good for her. She is NOT encouraging us to do the same, she is just showing that Baruch Hashem, it works for her nicely and no, she is not one of the paupers in town. There is no set rule for everyone. If it works for you kol hakovod, and if it doesn’t kol hakavod too. “
I think you missed my point. I am not against your teacher, I am sure she is a lovely young woman. She is also extremely idealistic, and paints an unrealistically rosy picture for all of her students, EVEN if her lifestyle works for her.
When someone you look up to tells you how amazing her life is, you want to emulate her in every way. That means that person has a responsibility to say, “this works for me, but you may have a very different experience.” Otherwise you risk being so disenchanted when possibly your own experience does not work out as hers did, and developing very negative feelings. You have to hear and examine BOTH sides of the story, before deciding this is for you, no questions asked.