To Myfriend: I should have clarified, expecting to learn on someone else’s dime.
And by average or below average, I wasn’t referring to their sheifa to learn and love of Torah, I meant average in other arenas.
I think we have to raise our boys with a mindset that they’re not learning for 2 years, or 3 or 5 or more, but they’ll be learning for life, and filling the 5 – 9 time meaningfully.