i am not pro or against kollel- each couple has to do whats best for them. what i AM against is one spouse expecting the other to be a mind reader. if a woman is unhappy in her current role, she must speak up. how can she hold it against her husband that he doesnt know shes upset WHEN SHE DOESNT LET IT SHOW!
back to the topic at hand- i agree with wolf that if she is not going to college because of kibud horim, then she probably will not do it online either, and ESPECIALLY not behind their back.
having a job doesnt necessarily mean one will be able to make ends meet. my husband gets a very nice salary, but we are still struggling to pay bills every month. i have a college education, but that didnt help me one bit, because the job i ended up getting had nothing to do with my schooling.
also, i would have to disagree with the last poster a little bit. mothers must be the ones to raise their children, but they dont necessarily need to be home all day to do that. that is not always financially possible and/or psychologically possible. even if i COULD afford to not work out of the house, i would choose to do so anyway, because i would get very depressed from not interacting with people every day. i need to see people and get out of my house in order to be the best mom/wife that i can be.