what I find interesting is that this topic started because it was a rant about people making up sources. It is fine if you and your spouse want to take on the chumra and geder of not touching at all in public. BUT you shouldn’t say that it is assur. While I understand that ideally this might be something that me and my husband should work on, it is not something that we are doing right now. Toi say it is assur when it is not, is wrong and it can sometimes even cause some people to be machshil in other things that are halacchically assur.
in my taharat hamishpacha classes I asked my teacher what is assur and what is not. There are certain things that she told me that certain people accept on themselves as to be more tznius.