“None of us should play G-d here. We do not know why each person got their specific trial to overcome.”
I never said that I know the reason why each person got their specific trial. I said that Hashem gave each person the kochos to overcome their spiritual challenges. That’s what we’re here for on planet Earth. That is the purpose of our lives.
The Torah doesn’t have pretty things to say about people casting off the ohl of Torah.Read the curses in the Torah for when we don’t follow it.
Yes, I’m very judgemental of those who think Yiddishkeit, the mainstay of our lives, what Jews have given up their lives al kiddush Hashem rather then give up their faith, what Jews kept for thousands of genererations through blood and tears, what Jews have practiced hiddenly under the threat of death is something one has the right to give up for various excuses. A jew cannot give up Yiddishkeit for Socialism, nor Communism nor Zionism and in the 21st century “mental disease”. These are just covers.
Again, learn the halachos of dan lkaf zchus. Dan lkaf zchus doesn’t apply for someone who openly and continually sins.
“All we can do is accept them and keep trying to help.”
I have no problem with accepting them as people even if I don’t agree with their choices. It is between them and Hashem and they certainly will not give din v’cheshbon to me.
“Judging doesn’t make anything better.”
Accepting their excuses as valid does not make them become better either. I’m not trying to make anybody see the light. I know what I’m talking about. I’ve never seen any teen or adult that went off the derech come back only because his excuses were accepted as valid. Rather those who came back did it because they wanted to. They realized that the non-frum world is empty and shallow and they returned if they felt they would be accepted. Those that do not want to return will not, unless they become willing later in their lives.