a) My rav holds it’s fine, contrary to the AKO statement.
b) I learn in BMG, and many of my very ehrliche friends who follow the standard Lakewood Rabbonim are ignoring ‘the list’, so I assume their rav told them it’s fine too.
I don’t know exactly what the argument is about, but clearly there is what to be dan l’kaf z’chus for a kosher store-owner who still sells the booze on ‘the list’. He should still respect your wishes to abide by whatever your own rav tells you, and he should not be showing disdain.