I understand that attraction is an important component of a relationship. That being said, there is overweight and there is OVERWEIGHT. If a girl is more generous of figure than a size 2 (which I personally do NOT get why a guy would find to be attractive in a girl, because they look like sticks), then that does not make her overweight. If she is in fact a size 24, then yes, she is severely overweight. I have seen tall young women who were size 16 and did NOT look heavy. It is all relative. Size is a number, it is not a person. And people tend to gain weight after they are married, and can also lose weight. Men gain weight, too. But the sloppy guys who only want models, never seem to own a mirror. (Not saying Yeshivahguy is a slob, personally, I think you have a more sensitive approach, though I wish you would have given that girl the second chance that you contemplated, to save face for her — you might have liked her better the second time, since she had other maalos).
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