One thing to realize, while all the communities you mention are very nice, fine communities, they all cater to different types of people.
I’m a native flatbusher, its probably as in-town as you can get, and if not, then close to it. In town means peer pressure (in a more adult form), but having a 24 Kosher supermarket not too far, and minyanim for the most part of 24 hours a day.
How about a place like Queens, (very generic, I know) from the little I know about it, it seems to have a nice mix where everyone can find what they’re looking for. As does the 5 Towns area.
Hatzlacha!