I don’t really know what to advise in this situation, but I am surprised at how many people think that the wife might be reading too much into the requisite friendliness that comes with the job of being a manager. I don’t know about other women, but I can tell the difference between polite friendliness and inappropriate friendliness. I had a situation where I felt a male coworker was a little creepy. Other male coworkers would say hi, how are you, how’s the baby and I’ve had no problem with that. This guy was trying to get too personal. I spoke with my feet. Every time he came over, I walked away. That sent a loud and clear message, and he backed off. What this guy had been doing was not enough to warrant filing a complaint, but I felt uncomfortable so i did what I had to do (it’s possible that by secular standards I overreacted, but those are not the standards I’m concerned with…) What I mean by all this is that while I may not be able to stand up in a court of law and swear that this guy did something wrong, my intuition told me that he was being wayyyy too friendly; there really is a difference and you can definitely tell. I would not discount the OP’s wife’s feeling’s. If she is feeling uncomfortable, there is likely a good reason for it and she needs to do something about it. I agree that she probably should not get this guy fired, but she does need to get him to back off.
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