rwndk1- ‘ashrechu”. you hit it on the head. tell people to- DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT YOU DON”T FEEL YOU CAN DO- either by spending a fortune on a chassuno or thinking that you have to buy an apartment and mortgage your life for it. This is unconsionable and should be avoided.
This is how I acted within my own family,regardless of what was offered to me.
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