bein_hasdorim, You are implying that because he was part of Chaveirim it lessens the chessed as if he had to do it. When someone is not breathing C”V and every minute is crucial, along comes a Hatzolah memeber and preforms CPR, would you say – the hotzalah memeber was (quoting you) “in volunteer mode” or “a call from what he signed up for”.
It is no less of a chessed what this Chaveirim member did. You dont know where he was at the time. These guys dont sit in an office waiting for calls. They are going about their daily activity, and stopping cold turkey when the call comes through.
How did the girls in the above story know that the helping boy was single? Maybe he was also married? quoting u “was she expecting him to strike up a conversation with her , if he’s married??!!” They struck up conversation and found out. What I see even worse is that it was TWO girls. So he knew that on the spot there is no potential for marriage there when he is shmoozing with 2.
Just to wrap up, A typical, frum girl does not strike up coversation with any boy anywhere, there is a time and place for both the boy and the girl. A “Thank you very much” should have sufficed on both ends.