Shadchanim should take alot of the blame with this ‘shidduch crisis.’ They tell who to go out with whom, when, where, what to say, what not to say, when to ask, how to act, call you fifty times the instant you walk through the door without giving you a chance to think it through… They don’t help people without connections or without calling them on a regular basis to remember your name.
Isn’t it about the boy and girl? They have to live with each other, not the shadchan.