and the shadchanis told her that if word got around that this girl was going to go on a date with a guy she had met WITHOUT THE INTERVENTION OF THE SHADCHAN, (a) the choshuve bochur would not meet her, and (b) the shadchanis would no longer help her because “my clientele does not talk to boys who have not been checked out and cleared.”
Why did she have to tell the shadchanis about the specific circumstances of her meeting Dovid? What is it her business? That was a big mistake on her part. She should have just told Mrs. Shadchanis “Sorry I am busy right now.”
And Mayan Devash is right, the aunt can now become the official shadchante. And why shouldn’t she check Dovid out? Get some references from Auntie and check him out! This way her position is not compromised bec. she has a shadchan and the boys has been “checked out and cleared”.
Who knows if “Choshuva Bochur” is also a baal middos who would stop to help pple?
I hope everything works out well for both of them.