You have to make bounderies, but I think that there should be a balance of that, plus space. They need both, one to keep them safe and the other so we don’t push them away. Some things we can’t let them do and are off limits. However, we also need to let teens be able to make small choices. That’s sometimes how people learn. They might decide that you are right, but they don’t know until they see for themself. Like this story in which this man didn’t want his son to go to the movie, but he let him choose what to do. The young man went there and afterwards decided it’s Not worth it and left that place.
Of course, every case is diff and some might stay there. But if they forbid him from going to watch it, he might lie and say he’s going to a friend’s house or something. It’s better that they know where he is.
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Also, in regards to a child who’s off and run away, let them know they have a place to return. Sometimes, kids don’t come back because they feel they can’t. Let them know you are there