AZ: So you are saying that if a man and woman are lock stock and ready to get engaged, but there is say a 3 or 4 year age differential, they must ask a shaila if the age differential means they must give up the shidduch – due to the age differential and its effect on the rabbim.
Correct?
“b) to what degree they are willing to help the slightly older girls knowing that there may be some younger girl who has the right to date”
How does helping the slightly older girl hurt the younger girl who has the right to date?
and may have a bit more difficulty because a boy is saying yes to a 23 year old instead of a 19 year.
How is it a bit more difficult because a boy is saying yes to a 23 year girl old instead of a 19 year girl?