Vovlie:
Scociolocigal:
I did not say HE causes difficulties. I’m saying in general significant age gap shidduchim causes problems for the community. Yes every boy should look to give serious consideration to girls close to his own age. She the letter from the gedolim.
theologciacl: please read the numerous threads where this was discussed extensivly. I will sum it up in one comment.
I have no problem from a emuna standpoint if perhaps someone may get married and raise a wonderful family with someone who may or may not have been his “basherte” (whatever that means-I mean no of us where there 40 days prior to birth)
I have a huge problem believing that G-D wants 10% of our daughters to remain agunos.. Yes I think it is obvious that many many ppl who married with a significant age gap did NOT marry their basherte, because aint no way the ribono shel oilam wanted 10% agunos……
But we have free choice and we have messed up BIG TIME (albeit not intentionally).
Question: how could gedolim give a bracha to someone who marryies a older girl etc. isn’t it possible that someone might date a girl he otherwise wouldn’t have dated and according to your in-accurate logic he would end up marrying a girl who isn’t his basheret???
Or job is to deal with what we can, let’s leave the nistaros to the ribono shel oilam….