Reply To: Binah-Shidduch Issue

oomis: “They somehow do not believe that she is serious, apparently”

I think the question “Why not?” begs asking. Actions speak louder than words, so if she dresses like a BY girl and her friends all live in Lkwd and she turns down all the YU boys because they are not “frum enough”, it is very reasonable that her friends and shadchanim are receiving mixed messages and act based on her actions not words. Suggesting that she picture what type of girl her ideal husband would be looking for and comparing herself to this picture would be helping not insulting, assuming it is done by the right person the right way.