Totally correct, I am very much pro higher education and getting prepared for a real profession. And our hishtadlus is very important in all areas, but sometimes one has to simply knwo the right people in order to get a foot in the door for a job, and all the polishing up of his resume, dressing neatly, working on his people skills, etc, will not get him that foot int he door, though it might help him a great deal to MAINTAIN a good job, once he gets it. Money will not fall out of the sky, and neither do shidduchim. If girls are davening for themselves and others, going to all singles events, but the same boys are there over and over (and they may have already dated some of them), they accept most, if not all, suggestions that are made to them,and are signed onto the frum dating websites and accepting those shidduchim, then they ARE doing their hishtadlus. Yes, some need to work on their personalities and people skills, as well as be more realistic about themselves and about the guys, but that is not true of all, and for anyone to imply that it is (author, lecturer – anyone), does a great disservice to the other girls who are doing their best. It is onaas devarim to say such things to them.
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