NY Mom:
Actually I was getting at that noone should be say that their should be a time period. I have MO friends who have dated for year(s) and are happily married with kids. It all matters on the couple. Whatever their views and thoughts are, should be between them, and noone else.
Personally, I do not think that dating for 6 weeks and going out only 12 times is enough. However, this is the norm these days in the yeshivish world. I personally, would not force my views on anyone, and I expect the same from others.
If someone asks me my view, my answer is as before (paraphrasing) “whenever you feel the time is right”. Noone else but the two people involved in the dating, know when that time will occur.