The achdus and chesed is nice (and is in abundance in both Eretz Yisrael and, lihavdil, in Chutz LaAretz), but if you’re at the stage of raising children, then you have to know the chinuch options of the place you choose to live in.
And unless you’re independently wealthy, you and/or your spouse will likely need a job wherever you choose to live.
Hatzlacha Rabba in your decision.