aries2756:
I have been in contact with close to 50 shadchanim over the last couple of years. Not a single one of them has ever asked for nor received anywhere close to 10g for a shidduch they have completed.
Many many of them work hours and hours each day some. Some of them 24/7 literally. Perhaps because they don’t have pre determined demands of 10g makes them not proffesional in your book. It is to these and the vast majority of the shadcahnim out there that I recommend giving compensation after 3 dates.
what you describe is so uncoomon probably less then 10 people in the US have a system set up that their fee is 10g for a completed shidduch.
I certainly agree with you. A shadchan who expects 10g for a completed shidduc and gets has no need for minor compensation after a couple of dates.
For the vast vast majorit of shadchanim who receive aprox one to to two thousand dolars for completed shidduchim. Yes I think compenation after a few dates is a very smart things for parents to do!