Squeak is right, haifagirl is right, and I am right. AZ, we have asked repeatedly for you to please stop using offensive terminology to describe unmarried people (offensive to them, as outlined by haifagirl, and offensive to the true agunos and akaros who don’t even have the potential to get married or have children, unlike free, single, unmarried men and women). The fact that you continue to call them by those terms, after specifically being told by haifagirl that it offends her, shows an incredible lack of sensitivity on your part, especially as you claim to be so concerned for their plight. You made your point, however inappropriately, that the unmarried go through a terrible nisayon. Please leave it at that and move on already.
“Just like it is no big deal to marry a girl 4 or 5 years younger, we need to get to the point where it is no big deal (and it isn’t!) to marry a boy 4 or 5 years younger than the girl.”
Since most boys do not mature emotionally at the same rate as girls do, if you are talking about a 22 year old boy and a 26-27 year old girl, I would not recommend that. It probably only works when both parties are already in the late twenties and early thirties or in their thirties and upward. A woman of 28 has little in common with a boy of 22, especially if he will want to learn for any amount of time after marriage. By the age of almost thirty, most women are looking for someone who already knows where he is, not someone who is first starting out. People change a great from early to late 20s. A boy who actually wants to marry a woman that much older, when he is very young, is often regarded as looking for a mommy, not an equal partner in life.