Bodek: I am not a shadchan by any stretch of the imagination. But I am in contact with shadcahnim frequently – due to my involvement in the close the age gap concept.
Yes shadchanim do expect a lot more then $20. Do you think they shouldn’t????
As I posted above “common in the tri-state area is 1,000-1,500 each side” and Shadchanim are okay with that.
What the shadchanim can’t accept is how they are totally not appreciated for all time and energy invested when the shiddcuh goes to 3/4/5 dates and then falls apart.
I’m sure Rochelle can fill us in on this angle..