“Most shadchanim my family deals with demand alot more.”
funny you write that. I have been in contact with tens of shadchanim in the last couple of years and not a single one has a price, and they certainly don’t “demand” anything….
Do you have any siblings that have gotten engaged via those shadchanim and they demanded a specific amount or have they told you up front?
I am aware of two shadchanim in the country who have fees up front. Two – that’s it. (there may be more but its kind’ve of like a needle in a haystack). Those 2 shadchanim tend to focus on the rich and famous-which is their right if they so choose.
The tens and tens of others-like Rochelle’s Mother in Law-have no fees have no demands