numerous typos pls repost
The reason Shadchanim do not state the compensation they would like to receive upfront, is NOT because they are looking to take advantage at the end -but rather because they are by and large a bashful group when it comes to asking for money. Being that there is such a “es kumpt mir” attidute regarding our dealings with shadchanim, they feel like they are being grubby if they were to discuss any kind of money when they are first called.
For some reason plumbers, mechanincs electricians don’t have that problem. Might it just be that WE create the atmosphere that makes shadchanim uncomfortable about discussing money.
Everyone here (seems to) agrees with the unbelievable time and effort shadchanim put into redding shidduchim. why is is so hard to recognize that they should be made to feel that they deserve the compensation and that when they receive it they should not be made to feel like beggers.