Volvie: I wasn’t being judgmental of shaddchanim in general, I specifically said some of them are good. I continue to use the good ones but frankly I’ve had better luck with shidduchim suggested by friends and family.
He did not suggest frumster and I didn’t ask him about it b/c I’m not really interested in using it. I’m not comfortable approaching girls and asking them out directly, that’s not how I was brought up. However I think the attitude that guys and girls who try to meet people on their own (for marriage purposes) are doing something wrong, is detrimental and a big part of the shidduch “crisis”.