Aries makes a very good point. There is often friction between a woman and her daughter in law. The mother wants what’s best for her son and doesn’t believe a girl young enough to be, well, her daughter can possibly get it right. The bride has a tough enough job setting up her new household and resents the interference. That’s when the courtship has gone well. If the girl has been put through the wringer it’s going to be even worse. The level of resentment on her part and nit-picking on the part of the in laws make a happy marriage very unlikely.
Me? I was lucky. My parents were dead-set against us getting married, especially my mother. Afterwards she warmed up miraculously. I asked my wife what happened.
She said “We had a territorial fight. I won. She accepted her defeat graciously.”
Like the insightful observer of human relations that most young men are I wittily replied “Huh?”
“You were the territory, honey.”
The family a man came from is his past. The family he makes and the woman he makes it with are his future. Parents do not always accept this simple truth.