We now know how dangerous it is and WE as Parents MUST put our foot down. So WE must make the rules for OUR children. Drinking should be done ONLY at OUR purim seudah table and that will be WINE only that Tatty gives out during the SEUDAH. NO ONE is allowed to give OUR CHILDREN mashkeh and OUR CHILDREN are NOT ALLOWED to accept any from anyone even their Rebbeim. The answer is “NO THANK YOU!”. If they push the answer is “I will be oiver a takanah that my parents put on me and that is an aveirah against kibud av v’em”. Pull out all the stops if you have to. Say you will not prepare Shaloch Manos for their Rebbeim if they don’t comply! Let them know what the consequences are. Take them to a Hatzolah member to hear some of the horror stories before Purim. Take them to a Rebbe who has more seichel to speak to before Purim. DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO KEEP YOUR CHILDREN SAFE!
As a teenager one of my sons got drunk once on Purim out of town and threw up in the snow outside someone’s house and passed out.. His friends left him there in the snow until he woke up and came to. That was the first and last time for him. When he graduated and came home and went to a local Bais Medrash, he told his sister that he was going to have a drink at the chagigah and that she should stay up to pick him up later. He called her to come get him. He had one drink but his friends were dead drunk. He had to carry them into my daughter’s car (that they shared) and she drove them home one at a time. It took them a while to show up to the house again because my son made a point of telling them how they got home that night. They were totally embarrassed from my daughter.
No one likes a drunk except for another drunk!!
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